After a difficult birth, my husband said that I should pay for the birth myself, because the doctors were doing me a favor: that’s the lesson I taught him 🤔😱
The birth lasted almost twenty hours. It seemed that time had stopped, and the pain and fatigue would never end. When it was all over and I, exhausted, hugged a tiny bundle of joy, I thought that the hardest part was over. But I was wrong.
After a difficult birth, my husband said that I should pay for the birth myself, because the doctors were doing me a favor: that’s the lesson I taught him
A few days later, the hospital bill arrived – in my name. The amount was impressive, but I was sure that my husband and I would split it. After all, the child is common. But his reaction shocked me. My husband only glanced at the paper and said coldly:
– Your bill is your problem. They were doing you a favor.
At first, I thought it was a rude joke. But he was serious. I reminded him:
— I gave birth to OUR child. It wasn’t a spa treatment.
He shrugged:
— I already buy diapers and formula. I’m not going to pay for the hospital.
These words were like a blow. I realized: next to me is a person for whom my suffering is just a “service” that has nothing to do with him.
And then I decided: if he behaves like a bastard, I will also speak to him in his language.😢😨 Here’s what I did. Continued 👇👇
After a difficult birth, my husband said that I should pay for the birth myself, because the doctors were doing me a favor: that’s the lesson I taught him
I took a notebook and started making a list.
— Gave birth to a child? Please, a bill for 19 hours of “work.”
— Night feedings? Clear pricing for each.
— Washing baby clothes? Separate item.
— Washing bottles, sleepless nights, going to the doctor, even cooking while I was recovering — everything turned into lines with amounts.
I left these “bills” on his desk, neatly folded. At first he laughed. Then he began to get irritated. But I continued — methodically, without emotion.
A month after giving birth, I hired a nanny. Yes, it cost money, but I went back to work. I needed to prove to myself that I was not dependent on him.
After a difficult birth, my husband said that I should pay for the birth myself, because the doctors were doing me a favor: that’s the lesson I taught him
And then I filed for divorce. And for alimony. Now let the state explain to him that “this is his child too.” I was tired of begging for respect and support.
When the first court decision came, which stated how much he was obliged to pay monthly, I felt a strange satisfaction. It was my quiet victory.
He wanted everything to be according to the calculations? Well. Now it will be according to the calculations. Just not according to his.
